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Relationships, Loving Yourself, Friendship, Dating & Family

This week we wanted to talk about something not medicine related and we have been seeing a lot of talk about relationships recently. Of course, we can talk for days about this topic but we just wanted to cover the basics about what relationships are and our personal take on them. So, go ahead and listen to the episode now then come back here for our summary blog post…


Relationships as you know are a part of your everyday life and involve all different types. These include those with your family, your significant other, friends, co-workers, among others. We want you all to know the importance of how difficult it is to build a relationship and how meaningful these can be once you develop them. The most important part you may ask? It is creating a solid foundation.


Going back to social media we have been seeing a lot of negativity revolving around the unhappiness in relationships and how some people are being defined by someone else or are with people who don’t care about you. That makes us very sad and we believe you should dispel some of these notions to be able to develop relationships with people who value you and are on the same page! We understand that it is hard to be in a relationship with other people but once it is a meaningful one you will see how it only makes your better and helps you and whoever else is involved grow to become better versions of yourselves.


With that said though everyone must understand another key point. This is that the most important relationship is the one you build with yourself and not the one with other people. Why is this the case? Because until you learn what is best for you, you will not be able to help the person next to you and they will be unable to help you as well. For someone else to love you, you need to love yourself first. Peoples social media really at the end of the day is a lie. Most people you see post to make themselves look good and they feel better by the façade they portray without necessarily taking care of their inner self. Thus, they are creating this everlasting loop of showing that they are happy without being happy.


Vulnerability is another key when it comes to relationships. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable and start to focus solely on you, relationships suddenly become drawn to you. When you stop looking for things it just so happens that things you once wanted to come to you. This is exactly what we experienced once we allowed ourselves to become vulnerable. Because when you are happiest with yourself it shows and during this time you are most open to accepting other people as well as, their happiness.


On the other hand, we have also been in situations where you stick by someone or something that you probably shouldn’t have. On the bright side, these experiences help you to grow as a human being. When you’re younger you tend to get into relationships and don’t really know yourself yet so you stay with people for convenience, comfort, or because you don’t really know what you want. As an adult, you start to think about other things that become more important like compatibility, bettering one another, being in a relationship where you have a great time and really focusing on your happiness. We have all been there where we stayed in relationships and even lied to ourselves without knowing it. You sit there and think about the pros and make yourself perceive the pros outweigh the cons and that you are in it for love even when that may not have been the case. If you can’t tell by now we like to make good out of all our situations so even if we were in something bad we are grateful we went through it because we wouldn’t be who we are today!


Going into this further we need to discuss trust. At the core, trust really goes along with your insecurities. Everyone has them, we also have them! But the difference is how we deal with our insecurities and how they shape the trust in our relationships. The most important point to be made here is that you need to try and trust the person you’re with! And to trust others you must understand your own personal value. For example, if people want to go and cheat it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you but that they are not for you. If that person chooses to go and do what is wrong that allows you to be free of them and go find your true happiness. Moreover, worrying about it isn’t going to help the situation. Please do yourself a favor and don’t look at the phone or search for ways to mistrust. You are doing these things to find something so, if you truly have a gut feeling then you already know what is going on and confirming your suspicions shouldn’t change anything. Always try and trust the person you’re with no matter what their past is. Trust us, we have been there and in some circumstances, you need to let things go. Life and shit happens. If you cannot let certain things go then try to not delve into them in the first place.


In summary, get out of toxic relationships and always try your best to build trust!


Turning it over to other types of relationships like we mentioned in the beginning let’s get into friendships. Like any other relationship, you need to be on the same page. Don’t be forced to start a friendship or stick with one just because you have known them for a long time and feel obliged to be a part of it. Today we don’t have time to waste to spend time with people we don’t vibe with. Ain’t that the truth! Those people that are around you define you. Ever heard the saying you are the company you keep? So, wouldn’t you want to attract like-minded people who are positive and bring value to your relationships? If this is you already, keep doing what you need to do. But if you notice there are people around that are negative, you may need to reevaluate your relationships and remove yourself from the situation. Ultimately, you need to focus on you. Luckily, we have been blessed with our friends (you know who you all are), of which the majority we have known since childhood. Not a lot of people can say that, so we are happy that we hold the concept of loyalty close to us.


In terms of your friendships there will be people that you have known forever and you will grow apart as you get older and change. That is normal and it will happen. It doesn’t mean you forget about them it really means you are helping one another become better people and removing whatever is making you unhappy. In other situations, you will bicker and sometimes you will be at fault (even if you don’t want to admit it, it’s okay we have trouble with that also at times). We try to find ways to resolve our issues for the people we care about. It’s important to find common ground and compromise.


In closing remarks, we want to talk about our most important relationships. To us, it is our family. Don’t neglect your family! This might be our biggest takeaway for this episode. Your family is always number one. They are always there for you in your best and not so great moments. No matter where you are in the world, do not forget how important they are to you. People grow old, people pass away and there’s so much to learn about your family members. Knowing what they have been through or seeing life through their eyes helps shape you as a human being. These relationships and experiences help you form the best version of you and keeps all your relationships sacred as well as, whole. So, go out there and socialize. As always, we are here to help.


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